It has been one year since I had a hysterectomy. While I wish I could say that it was a breeze, that would not be a complete truth. It was hard, not all physically, but still. It was a hard decision to make. It was a turbulent recovery. I’m still recovering.
What have I learned in the year?
· Most men have NO clue what happens inside of a woman’s body when it comes to reproducing. It has been hilarious. Discussing why I no longer have a menstrual cycle and why I can no longer carry babies should earn me a certification in Human Biology.
· More women than you would ever know suffer from reproductive issues. Fibroids run rampant in the African American community. Still no clue as to why.
· Birth control can mask health issues. Birth control can make some health issues worse.
· Sometimes you have to take off that cape. People are willing to help in many situations…us “strong” people just need to learn to ASK AND ACCEPT the help.
· I still have a strong desire to grow my family. I’m not sure what exactly that will look like, but it will happen.
· Doctors are not mind readers. Of course, I already knew this. There is no way for them to know what you are experiencing if you don’t tell them. No need for shame or shyness. Tell them what you are going through so they can help you!
· Therapy can be transformational.
· Meditation is a form of self-care.
· The biggest lesson of all…SHOW YOURSELF SOME DAMN GRACE! Still working on this one.
How am I feeling?
Better. I haven’t missed the pain. Definitely don’t miss the periods. I still struggle with not being able to have another kid, but if I am being honest with myself, I need that kid to come out walking, talking and potty trained! Still, it is something that affects me and is one of the reasons I sought therapy. I’m still in therapy. It’s been life changing!
I only had one issue with the healing process. One of my stitches grabbed a pocket of skin and created a small polyp-ish thing. Not a big deal. Otherwise, I had the typical healing pains and mood swings. Hello hormones! I have an awareness of when my period would have started and have very mild symptoms…mainly cravings for chocolate.
I still know that having the hysterectomy was the best decision for ME. I don’t regret it. It has tremendously increased my quality of life. If I had to make the choice again, I would not hesitate.
Sending you all love and light!