Skip to main content


Showing posts from January, 2021

I Almost Forgot About You

It has been over 7 months since I had my hysterectomy. I'll be honest, it is a part of my womanhood that I am not sad to have gone. No, I can't have any more babies the traditional way, but I'm finally getting to a place that I am OK with that.  The road hasn't been easy emotionally for me. But physically I feel AMAZING! I sometimes feel my ovaries working, but there is no pain. I still have slight mood swings and cravings around the time I would normally have a cycle, but it's not every month. Did I mention I'm no longer in pain? I can't describe how amazing it feels!  I definitely DO NOT miss having a monthly cycle! AT. ALL! I could end the post here. I was recently having a conversation with a friend and it made me think back to all of the issues I've had over my life. I didn't connect all of the dots until AFTER I had the hysterectomy. 1. I have ALWAYS had issues with birth control. Pills, depo, Mirena, Nexplanon, hell I was using the NuvaRing wh

Lessons from 2020

Sadly, 2021 is off to a turbulent start that is showing signs that it might be the ghetto. My family moved out of the hood a long time ago and I have no desire to go back. I REFUSE to let 2021 be a shit show. REFUSE! 2021, we need you to sit down and act like you got a little bit of sense! We witnessed the biggest current day display of white privilege with the attack on the Capitol. Y'all. What in the actual f...? That's all I'm going to say on that. 2020 taught me a couple of things. Control is an illusion. The only thing we can control is ourselves. Everything else is THEM PEOPLE'S BUSINESS.  You being a good person does NOT mean people will be good to you. You are NOT required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm! Be a good person though, it will come back to you tenfold. Know your worth, then add tax! Set healthy boundaries. Many of the situations we find ourselves in happen because we have not set healthy boundaries. Does that person DESERVE to have t