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Is Dating Dead?

I hate it here. My brain thinks that you meet, you are instantly in love, you evolve together. Boom, a successful relationship. That’s how it happens in the movies. Why can’t I have that?! Girl, bye.
I’m blaming social media. The popularity of “getting to know you” online has taken the place of coffee dates and late-night phone calls. Text messaging has taken the place of love letters. FaceTime has taken the place of actual face time. Netflix and chill has led to taking things too fast and not really getting to know one another before you get to know one another.
WYD and other annoying shorthand messages makes us not even want to respond to you. Real talk. Do you know proper English? This isn’t attractive. We don’t want this. I don’t want this. I want to be mentally stimulated. What are you reading? Can you read? That’s a valid question these days.
So, what’s the problem?
Men are stupid. There. End of blog post.
Okay, okay, not all men are stupid. And I imagine that men who are r…
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Holiday Party Etiquette

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If you are invited to a party, gathering, dinner, or the like, there are some things that you just don’t do. If we invited you, we must like you at least a little bit. That can end quickly. Here are some general rules of Black house gatherings that expand beyond the holidays. You’re welcome.

Don’t assume all Black events start late. Yes…a lot of them do, but you don’t want to be the late one. If I tell you it starts at 3, I’ve most likely accounted for the lateness of my family members. We move on without them. Don’t be tardy for the party. Don’t show up empty handed. Even if you are told not to worry about bringing anything, bring something. Even if it’s a bottle of sparkling cider. There will be massive side eye if you show up empty…

Teriyaki Eggplant

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My family tries to keep the tradition of having family dinner alive. We try. One of my sisters is currently following a vegan diet. My family does not understand the concept of not using animal products. Like at all. I can hear my mom OR my oldest sister saying now, “Well, I didn’t put any meat in it, I just used a little bacon grease. The grease ain’t meat!” I’m not playing y’all.

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Happy Accidents: Banana Pudding Edition

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Over the weekend, I had a really strong craving for banana pudding. I went to the store (without checking my cabinets) and grabbed what I thought I needed to make Jocelyn's Banana Pudding. When Sunday night rolled around and I got up the energy to make it, I discovered that the sweetened condensed milk in my cabinet had been expired for over a year! This is one of the ways I disappoint myself often. I need to schedule twice a year cabinet clean out!

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See Some Mexico!

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I was blessed this year to be able to go to Mexico (before my passport expires)!

So, I had never stayed at an all inclusive resort. I have been to a few places, but our norm has been to rent a place. Someone usually ends up cooking and doing things not conducive to RELAXING. We took a girl's trip to an all adult, all inclusive resort. Let me tell you! I ate all of the food and I drank all of the drinks! It was such a beautiful and relaxing time! Can you imagine just sitting out by the pool all day and being waited on hand and foot? We did it! And I want to do it again! I will do it again!

I didn't know how bad I needed to unwind until I got the opportunity to do so! Remember to take care of yourselves friends!

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