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Your hero is YOU!

Who’s your hero? I had an appointment this week and all of my emotions must have been sitting on my forehead (I had on a mask). The doctor said to me, “You know, in the human experience, we have a habit of labeling things either good or bad. The best thing we can learn is that an experience is just that, an experience. Once you stop looking at things from the perspective of being good or bad, you’ll have a much happier life.” Then he called me fat and told me to get my life together! Just kidding! This man had no idea what I was going through, but clearly something put it on his heart to say this to me. He has been on my healthcare team for about 5 years. Never had we had a moment like this. He gave me a message that I didn’t even know – or want to acknowledge – I needed. I was able to receive it with the care and concern that he presented it with. His words stuck with me. My daughter has a habit of getting in the car and asking to choose one song for us to listen to before I take
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