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3 Week Post Hysterectomy Update

Today marks three weeks since I had my hysterectomy. Weeks one and two were a breeze to me. I felt good, I was moving around without any problems. I was most likely doing absolutely too much. Week three is proving to be not so nice. I’ve been achy. I’ve been tired. I’ve been emotional. My boobs hurt. I have however, been sleeping better (thank God!). I just wanted to give a little update on the things that have really helped me this far. Every person is different, so what worked for me may not work for you. I’m not a doctor and cannot diagnose or treat any condition…these are just things I found to be helpful. These are not affiliate links (I won't make any money if you buy from these links).Toilet Stool - I already had these in all of my bathrooms. It is VERY helpful with encouraging things to get moving.Peppermint Tea - helped me more than gas pills. Lavender and Chamomile Tea - I drink it at night to help me relax and wind down.Heating Pad - the bigger the better.Pregnancy Pill…
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